Exhibit A:
Me: Hello
Him: Candy...Can you tell my girl nothing's going on with us?
Me: Wait what?(I don't know who it is at this point, so I'm quickly trying to process the voice, and determine who I think it is)
Him: Well can you tell my girl you know I have a girl?
Me: Yes, I know you have a girl, but lemme tell you what's NOT 'bout to happen..This convo!...
I've recently been confronted with more than enough (1 is too many) situations like this. I got off the phone, and quickly began venting to Pink how I could NOT believe this man called me w/this crap! Whole time I'm thinking it's a friend I'd recently asked to tell me his actual situation...is his "folks" his girlfriend or is he really single? (An answer I wouldn't have known had I not been the one to ask.) It turned out it wasn't him, so I called every unknown # from Saturday back until I hit the jackpot:
Her: Hello
Me: Hi, this is going to be weird, but do you have a boyfriend?
Her: Yes, I do.
Me: What's his name?
Her: Wait, who are you?
Me: Candy...you two called me on Saturday, and I'm just trying to figure out who it was b/c I cursed my friend out and it wasn't even him.
Her: oh yeah, his name is Exhibit A...I just saw you texted him late one night, and was curious as to why?
*PAUSE*...You need to take that up with your man, first off! But I didn't say that...I was nice this time bc she was nice as well. And that's all ya'll need to know about the situation.
Alot of you are probably thinking, "Why would she call back?"..my response...WHY THE HELL NOT?! Here we have a man who clearly was half steppin'! Me and this guy rarely speak, and when we do it's because he hits me up. He informed me he had a girlfriend, and I was happy for him, and even suggested we not hang out/talk cuz I know how females are, but he had me believing she was cool w/us speaking...hell...I even thought the girl wanted to meet me or something bc he invited me over their apt for his birthday party prior to this phone call! I HAD to know who it was that called me, so I could cut him off! How you gonna paint a portrait of the wrong face for me?! If you KNOW you're THAT scared to lose your girl...to the point you callin other chicks cuz she told you to...you need to stop whatever foolishness you're attempting! Clearly you're not built for it! And honestly, had it not been for ME saying I respected his relationship in the first place...things wouldn't have even been plutonic smh.
Exhibit B:
I met a guy one day off some business thru a mutual connection...he had no idea what I looked like, and when I described my outfit before our meeting, I left out all physical aspects of myself. I simply told him what I had on. After meeting me he sent me a text wanting to hang out. At the time I was dealing with Young Gent, so I wasn't interested, but I saw no harm in chiefin'(my biggest flaw...not everyone's agenda is the same). We blazed a few times, and one day he asked could he come over and kick it (he had never been inside my apt)...him and his cousin. Boom...they come thru, and ask can they invite 2 girls...Bam...we all chillin playing Black Ops, and I keep hearing this ringtone, but I'm too far along the Milky Way to really pay attention. In the midst of this I see I have like 6 missed calls from a restricted #...I finally answer:
Me: Hello
Her: Hi is Exhibit B there?
Me: Yes, may I ask who's calling? (cuz A #1 why is a rando heaux (thanks @livnlavidavonna) calling me asking for you?)
Her: This is his wife (guess she wasn't a rando afterall, huh?)
HIS WIFE?! Now...this man told me he had been divorced for a yr and a half, and that his wife had done him dirty...blah blah blah blah BLAH! Married?! How does one lie about being married. Thanks be to God I'd never done anything with him beyond a friendly hug, but aside from that...A SINGLE WOMAN HAS NO BUSINESS HANGING OUT ON THE REG WITH A MARRIED MAN!! I felt bad. I can't lie. I wasn't wrong in the situation, and I ended up speaking to her also b/c she was going to leave him, and I could NOT let her leave him on account of me when him and I hadn't done anything.
That's neither here nor there...the point is: People have no respect! Period. As for people like Exhibit A...if you know your girl has a problem with you having female friends, don't have them if you wanna be with her. That's it, and that's all! One thing iCandy doesn't do is drama! Not just saying it to sound good...I'm serious. I will nip that malarchy in the bud...I'm the WRONG person to hope and pray I don't tell on you if you didn't keep it real with me up front! If you're bold enough to call my phone cuz you can't handle your situation at home since you couldn't keep your game tight...be bold enough for WHATEVER THE HELL IM GONNA SAY OUT MY MOUTH! My loyalty is not to YOUR relationship...yours is! I have no obligation to trying to help you keep your partner. I'm not saying I'm going to put you out there, but if the situation makes me look bad enough...yeah...I'm going to put you out there.
In the case of Exhibit B...smh the only thing to be said is trifilin.
I guess I'll do a Part 2 to this post b/c my next questions are about being Ms. Second Place, and why people don't understand why being the jump-off is an issue.
Give me your feedback...ever been blind-sided by some bullshit? Why do people do shady business and expect you to have their back, and sacrifice yourself when they're in the wrong?? I need to know!
*hugs and love*
-iCandy
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