Men Talk More Than Females

So over the last few months I've come to realize that men run their mouths more than females. What made me want to address this in a blog, you ask? Well...one of my best friends/roommates (we will call her Pink...you may remember her from blogworld) is attracted to this guy (we will call him Mr. S) who has a girlfriend and just so happens to be cousins w/Young Gent. She has already made up in her mind that she is NOT going to fuck him, but he still comes around and blazes with us.

Today Pink calls me, and reveals that all day she has been trying to refrain from telling me that Mr. S is supposed to be coming over this weekend while I'm gone. What she didn't know was that Mr. S had already told Young Gent, and Young Gent had already told me! So her "juicy" tea she had to spill was ruined b/c Mr. S had already run his mouth! Now he's DEF not getting any poon smh. #FAIL

I had a similar situation happen to me recently. I was asked about someone I had fucked back in the day. The question was, "Was it good?"....My response, "It was mediocre, but we were both drunk, so I can't say it was bad. I did it more than once so it couldnt have been TOO bad". Well when I said this I was in the company of one of his friends. That friend went back to one of their mutual friends, and told him, and that friend went to the guy I said it about, and made it seem as if I said his sex was terrible, then I ended up getting cursed out, and some more shit!

WHY DO MEN TALK SO DAMN MUCH?!


I could have sworn women were the ones known to be unable to hold water! Smh...there's a lil bitchassness in a lot of men, and they're alot more emotional than I ever realized...I just gotta keep it real. Shut the heck up sometimes, and get out your feelings #imjustsayin!


*hugs and love*
-iCandy

Sidenote: I'm superman stoned at work =)

All Things Considered

Well well well...it's been quite some time since I blessed the blogworld w/a new post. Alas, the wait is over...


Let's jump right in. This blog is going to be ALL OVER THE PLACE (I think)!! I will start by addressing my current "love life"...So...I asked CB 1 question that changed my entire mind frame: Has your heart EVER went pitty pat, or have you EVER gotten butterfly flutters in your tummy at the thought of me? I asked for an honest answer...one that wasn't going to spare my feelings. The response: I've never felt butterflies, but you do have feelings for you that a basic chick couldn't give me.

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Now...this statement (upon further inspection) reveals that CB is pretty much just trying to keep me in the pocket.

The latter half of that statement reminds me of a pure player, and I don't wanna think of CB that way, but it is what it is. Do I believe CB does feel a lil extra for me...yes! Do I feel CB feels extra to the point that we could ever be anything beyond friends...NO! Does CB want to straight up say that...NO! CB wants to keep me dangling with the possibility that one day we could be. With that being said, I can't keep halting advancements w/Young Gent in hopes that CB will come around - Sure I've said this before, but I don't think I really MEANT it before, and I half-way don't think I mean it now (smh @ myself for this gargantuan crush). CB seems to have some sort of little hold on me. Something about CB is just so undeniably spectacular, but why try to invest in something that doesn't seem like it'll have a positive payout in the end? Clearly, the response given to the question I asked was all I needed to accept that fact that CB and I will NEVER BE ANYTHING more than friends and maybe a fuck. It's sad, but true.

Sidenote: CB if you're reading this...I will ALWAYS want you in a way that you don't want me, but I'm being a woman...an adult woman, and accepting that. I don't want you to string me along anymore cuz I'm very hip to game, and I know you don't think you're playing me, but you're playing me. Our friendship means more to me than my crush on you does...so...I'll always be ya HPBOFA (can u figure out that textcronym lol), and I'll always have ya back.

Alright blog fam...that's it for me. This wasn't as all over the place as I thought it would be.

*hugs and love*
-iCandy

The Blog Urge

Well well well...it's been quite some time since I blogged, and well...I feel wrong. Just plain WRONG! So much has happened, so many good things, bad things, great things, birthday things, realizations, i dont give a damn moments...alot of stuff you all needed to know!! My apologies.

Moving right along...let me just make this blog about Artscape. So Artscape is a music/arts festival in Baltimore. I had never even heard of it until Saturday night. My Besti Butt Cakes was like, "dude, we should go to Artscape to see Rebelution tomorrow, and get fucked up before we go!" So...you know me...hell yeah I'm down to ride!!

In the midst of all this festival excitement, I find that Wale is performing RIGHT AFTER the band we wanted to see. Instantly I got extra hype. So Sunday morning comes around, and I drank a brew off the early morning...like 11am or something, then BBC (Besti Butt Cakes, not Big Black Cock lls) and I headed to Linthicum, MD to meet her friend from the All Good Festival, D'Albers. Prior to our heading out, we smoked a blunt (keep track of the blunts).

Along the way, on the train we took a few shots of Jager, and drank a few lil bottles of wine (the personal sized ones). We also met some cool ass motherfuckers that were going to Artscape too...they became our journey buddies lol. Once we got into Bmore we smoked a blunt (thats #2 on top of all the drinks). We blazed right out in the open while jammin' with this tight band!

Long story short, we smoked a couple white boys in the crowd w/some hippies...met back up with the cool motherfuckers, ROLLED A BLUNT IN THE CROWD AND SMOKED IT, and all this happened BEFORE Wale. With that being said, by the time Wale was supposed to come on I was FADED and we left lol, so I didn't even get to see him perform.

Although I missed Wale, Artscape was an epic triumph and I can't wait to go to my next festival!!!!

*hugs and love*
-iCandy

I'll Title This One Later...Maybe lol

Yoski Doeski! So look, *breaks out in beat and song* ON MY MOMMA, ON MY HOOD ((REEEEMIIIIXXXXXXX) I FEEL FRESH, I FEEL GOOD!...I FEEL...GOOOOOD...I FEEL...GOOOOOOD...I FEEL...GOOOOOD....I FEEL...GOoOoOoOoOoOd!

I really took some time recently to revamp my mind...kinda like what I was saying in the last post. But seriously people, I have a new outlook on life. I'm making positive changes, huge decisions, and setting up big plans for my future.

That being said...I've decided to move back home for a few months at the end of the Summer after my lease ends. At first I wasn't thrilled about the idea, but now...I'm loving it! I can't wait to be back in the comfort of home, and safe w/my mom and dad. I'm so attention spoiled!!!!! I'm going to love all the wonderful meals my mom's going to cook...all the outtings to God knows where w/my father...crazy scattin and singing in the kitchen w/my sister...ahhhhhhhh it'll be great - for a little while lol.

That's just one big thing I'm planning to do. That one move will help me get back on track from the car accident, and then *bing bing* life will be so much sweeter.

Sound like a good idea? Let me know.

*hugs and love*
-iCandy

Mid 20s Crisis

So...I've come to the conclusion that something is happening to me, and I think that something is...I'M GROWING UP...ALOT!

I recently met someone who loves to party, and loves to be on the scene. I don't knock that, but it's not me. I've never been the type to want a bunch of unnecessary attention. Knowing too many motherfuckers adds drama to life. I don't want to be out and folk notice me from being in the club all the time, or at someone's lounge every week, or cuz I have a thousand drunk and hot girl pics on FB (I do have a few, lol). My life is usually what most would consider "boring". I go to work, come home, eat planets, watch movies, and just relax. I hit the bar alone quite often, and most of the company I have at my apt are my blazin' buddies. I'm the more laid back type, and up until recently I feel like I've allowed people to make me feel guilty about being this way. It's so hard for me to say "no", and stick to that "no". I say I don't want to go out, and somehow I get conned into feeling bad for saying No, and the next thing I know...I'm getting dolled up and heading out on some club/party excursion that I didnt even wanna go on!

Well I started thinking...why do I allow people to do this to me?! Why can't people just accept me as I am? I'm getting older, and with all the bullshit Ive gone thru, and am presently going thru, I'm realizing that forreal forreal...half these jablipees in my life don't even matter. I waste my time trying to please everyone instead of trying to please the person in my life who should come first...ME! From the people who wanna party to the people I wanna pursue...I'm pretty much done neglecting myself, and conforming to make other people happy. I'm sick of settling for situations that I don't like, and I'm sick of people using me for what they want!

This entire situation just has me feeling completely antisocial, and honestly a little taken advantage of by alot of people...people who probably have no idea how much things about them are beginning to bother me. I've put myself 2nd for so long that I barely even understand how to put myself first! Up until now I feel like alot of 2010 has been an #epicFail ...dating; relationships w/friends, acquaintences, and the like; the ex factor...

Speaking of dating...It's funny how what one person is to you, you are to someone else. (s/n: ummm 41411 better stop, got damn, sending me all these texts! )What I mean by this is...ok...there are people (i.e.-Young Gent) who CLEARLY wanna date me and give me the attention that I want/deserve, BUT I carry it a lil with those types probably b/c there's no chase...then I turn around and show that same type of interest to someone who CLEARLY isn't on the same page as me, and probably doesn't take me serious b/c...there's no chase! SO...to the person I show my interest to...I am to that person what Young Gent is to me! Makes me reevaluate shit! Why am I focusing on people who dont put out the same that I do instead of focusing on the person who OBVIOUSLY likes me?! There is nothing about Young Gent that I shouldnt like! Why do I need the chase?! Fuckin chasing folks will have me still single at 40! I'm getting old, and I need to stop w/da shittery and tom foolery, and stop focusing on these people that aint focusing on me! #POW

I guess I've gotten enough off my chest for one day...I could go on and on and on right now lol, BUT this shit is long enough!! Until next time...

*hugs and love*
-iCandy

Weekend Wrap-Up

Me and my Butt Cakes!
Ahhh the weekend is over, and all of us 9-5ers are back on the job! *sigh* I'm tellin you it seems like the weekend days come and go faster than any other days of the week! Eh, oh well tho.

So I came in to the office early as heck today...Hmm usually I get here around 9:15, but today I was in around 8:10! woot woot hollaaaaaa! I had work to do...trust and believe that! I almost came in over the weekend, BUT I got too fucked up lol...

With that being said, let us hop right into this WWU (Weekend Wrap-Up)! Well Friday after work I was supposed to go to my parents (I think I told ya'll that), but I ended up NOT going b/c of the little "storm" that came thru. Blah! I was pretty blown b/c I was looking fwd to seeing my folks and spending my dad's bday with him! Anyway, once that plan fell thru I went back to my apt, and sat in the clouds for a while...ate a couple stars, then went to spend time w/my Butt Cakes and her friends! We played this card game called Weed, and I won once (can u say SICED!). Eh, that was pretty much Friday. *S/N: I really wanted my Cuddle Buddy (refer to Who's Who to iCandy on the side of the blog) to come over but that didn't happen so I slept alone* Now that I think of it...my weekend was pretty much spent gettin nice...=]

Alright, now I fell asleep Friday night around hmm lets say 12ish...maybe even earlier, then I woke up around 4am and couldnt sleep, so..I called my friend who never sleeps and stayed on the phone til like 8am lol. Saturday DAY was pretty chill until I got stupid and took like 3 random shots, and then I was no good! I took a lil nap, then woke up and hit Young Gent (refer to WWiC) b/c we were supposed to go somewhere in VA. Well when I woke up my throat felt like all shit, so I seriously didn't feel like doing much of anything, but I didn't wanna just randomly say I wasn't going anymore. When he got to my house to pick me up I could tell that he was too tired himself from all the partying that he did the night b4 lol. We get in the car, and he just looked real shitty, so I'm like "look, if you seriously are this tired then I don't think you should be driving to Woodbridge like this." Basically I convince him NOT to go, so we went back inside and kicked it w/my Butt Cakes for a bit (toke and choke lls), then he rolled out, and I took my ass to bed!

Sunday was pretty uneventful also lol. Seriously speaking I flew so far into outer space this weekend that everything seems kinda blurry. I stayed in bed til about 1pm, then I went and kicked it w/my neighbor and his folks to watch the game. After the game tho, I started to get a strange vibe from him. I think he wants the cheeks! Now what's fucked up about this is that him and his girl live together smh! Why on earth would I even consider fuckin w/him? They live like 4 doors down from me!! What does he think?! That imma come over every time his gf is out of town and we gonna fuck the living daylights out of one another?! Who the shit do I look like?! #epictriumphantfail...so I took my ass to bed around 10:30 lol.

Anyway, that's that! I have alot of shit on my mind today, so seriously speaking I may be back blogging again b4 this day is done! Ehhh How was ya weekend? Gimme da wrap-up!

*hugs and love*
-iCandy

First Blog of the New Blog

Yo yo yooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! So I can't believe that I'm about to start all over. My other blog (icandy21.blogspot.com) is definitely still there, and definitely worth you reading, but yeah...this is gonna be my new home! With that being said...it's me bitchessssssssss. I'm tryna decide how I want this jablipee to go...do I wanna be vulgar, and detailed like the last blog? Sexcapades, stripper tales, and kinky-hot stories?? Or...do I wanna be a little more reserved/discreet? All I know is, at the end of the day I'mma be me, sooooo...take or leave it, hate it or love it (the under dog gon shine -#deadwrong)...ME is who you'll get at ALL times =] woot woot!

Moving right along, it's the weekend, and its gonna be jam-packed w/great stuff! Tonight I'm going to celebrate my fathers bday in Waldorf, then back to College Park to spend time w/my Butt Cakes (da besti) and her WVA friends...we gonna get super wasted I'm sure, then mayyybeeee S.O.S will come thru and......AHA! Nosey asses...ya'll wanna read some freak shit already, but I'mma keep it cute for a few posts (i think) lol. Tomorrow I'm hittin the zoo, then going somewhere at night...Sunday I'm hoping to be in church, and just spend the day kickin it w/a few homies. Nothing like a nice relaxing Sunday!

Anyway, hopefully something uberly eventful will happen, and I can report some juiciness back to you! I'm ready for the blog journey to begin again!

*hugs and love*
-iCandy